Military Marriage Question

[Medic88]

I figured this would be the right place to post this.

Well currently I am a line Medic in Northern Iraq, when I get home me and my fiance plan on finishing off the details and getting married. A bit after I get home I will be starting the process to get into the pipeline. My fiance supports my decision and my career 100%. The one thing that worries us is she is going into the military (Army or Air Force) around the same time I should be starting the pipeline. We are worried about being stationed together once she's out of training and what not. We have read into the MACP, but from what we could find they only station about 80% of couples from this. It did say that the MOS's have a big part to play. If I'm in the Q- Course or out in Group, she is going for a intelligence MOS, whether its AF or Army. We or assuming that they go pretty well hand in hand with each other. We are wondering if any one has some advice or suggestions. Thank you very much.

[Dozer523]

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Col Moroney weighed in 04-30-08 with this:
You asked, but you are not going to like this. Your hearts might belong to each other but your 4th POCs belong to the Army. You should be assigned to where ever the military needs you, accommodated if possible where you both can contribute best to the military, and one of you needs to make a career change if you find your personal aspirations are interferring with your professional requirements. I think you are going to find talking with this crowd that family has, out of necessity, been relegated to second position by situations way beyond your control because of the commitment required and expected of those that have volunteered for SF. I am sure that this sounds a tad insensitive and hard assed, but unfortunately in those instances where folks have bent over backwards and made exceptions to accommodate other folks where professional requirements and personal expectations just don't mix the bill payer is more often than not another soldier or soldiers that either have to pick up the slack, get an assignment where they were not best utilized or pay a price in their careers or lives that is just not right. While I respect, and thank you both, for your service I am fresh out of sympathy for situations such as these. Did you hear that noise? The chaplain has just left the building. I am sure others will have different opinions but remember you asked.
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[Red Flag 1]

Originally Posted by Medic88

I figured this would be the right place to post this.

Well currently I am a line Medic in Northern Iraq, when I get home me and my fiance plan on finishing off the details and getting married. A bit after I get home I will be starting the process to get into the pipeline. My fiance supports my decision and my career 100%. The one thing that worries us is she is going into the military (Army or Air Force) around the same time I should be starting the pipeline. We are worried about being stationed together once she's out of training and what not. We have read into the MACP, but from what we could find they only station about 80% of couples from this. It did say that the MOS's have a big part to play. If I'm in the Q- Course or out in Group, she is going for a intelligence MOS, whether its AF or Army. We or assuming that they go pretty well hand in hand with each other. We are wondering if any one has some advice or suggestions. Thank you very much.

Let me see here, and not to me a smart ass, but, If you are in the Army as anything, and she is in the Air Force as anything how, likely is it you will be stationed together?

Should you be stationed where there are USAF and Army bases, it might work. I really think you have answered your own question if you think about it; you are currently separated now, are you not.

My $.02.

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[Medic88]

My mistake on the lack of use of the search engine, thank you.

[P36]

I was dual military (Army MI to SF) for 17 years. We were separated several times for a year or more each time. I had it better than others, as we never faced a 3-4 year separation. Should you make it through the Q course, look at your possible postings...not many and you'll tend to stay in one area for quite a while. HRC or the Air Force equivalent is unlikely to mirror that with your fiance's assignments. So you will likey stay in whatever Group and she will PCS. Just plan on being assigned to separate locations for several years

Then consider you may be downrange virtually 1/2 of every year. And none of this takes into account her assignments, TDYs and deployments.

You really have to anticipate several lengthy separations..and if it doesn't happen, consider yourself lucky. However, assuming she doesn't join the military-you'll still find yourself separated because of our current committments...