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Originally Posted by miclo18d
Same reasons why serial killers get women in their creepy van. The aversion to be rude even when the hair on their neck is standing.
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That resonates with me. I believe some of us raise our kids to be this way...polite to a fault, always let the other guy go first, don't call people on BS, etc. For most, the pendulum of correction when a kid is rude swings too far to the polite zone and creates passive-aggressive people-pleasers. While this keeps confrontation down, and makes day-to-day life "smoother", it teaches that surrender to please is a good thing, and standing for yourself is a bad thing. It's almost as if politeness is taught as "please don't hurt me" vs being a state of restrained strength. Let it go long enough, and people start doing things they normally wouldn't do (like get in a creepy van or keep talking to a scammer when they know they are being scammed) when confronted with a potentially impolite situation.