[Pete]

You have more than a few questions.

The first from me is "Are you a couple, man & wife or is she splitting anyway?"

The second is "Did she deceive you or was it a mistake?"

If you're splitting anyway do you get custody of the child? If so you'll be a single parent - and that will cause problems with your dreams. Kids kinda' tend to do that - just have to change your dreams.

You need to see a lawyer - but I think most case law is on your side - not her's.