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Originally Posted by GratefulCitizen
If a women communicates that she doesn't need him, can take care of herself, and has no interest in an interdependent relationship with complimentary roles, the "men" will take them at their word. Then, these "men" will go find a woman who communicates that she actually does need him.
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True. You're describing a dyed-in-the-wool feminist. Feminists don't need anyone and a smart guy
would set off to find another woman.
But there are women who aren't feminists who earn a good living and can take care of themselves who want to share that with a man who is her equal or better.
For instance: I've got a 30 y/o beautiful, red-headed, long-legged cousin who put herself though college, earned two degrees, delivered babies in Chad as a rookie nurse and is now a nurse-anesthetist. She paid off her $70k school loan in 2 years. She rides dirt bikes, shoots guns, climbs mountains and skis down them. She writes and takes photographs. She wake-boards, water skis barefoot, kayaks down rapids, has her ham radio license, rides horses, was a gymnast, travels the world, is sweet, smart and comes from a close-knit family. She has a hell of time finding a man who can keep up with her. She's not going to settle for a momma's boy. The guy who wins her heart won't just walk away because he thinks she doesn't need him because the irony is she
doesn't need him for his money, or even his sense of adventure. She'll need him because he brings something else to the deal. A real man will figure out what that is and stick around to make sure she knows what it is too.
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Originally Posted by GratefulCitizen
A woman who doesn't "need" him would be a real catch for such a man-child.
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Indeed. Most of us huddled around the water cooler are wary of those guys.
Susan