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afchic · 04-19-2012, 16:10

I for one have never subcribed to the typical definition of "feminism".

I grew up with a brother 1 year older than me, therefore if I wanted to play I learned to play with him and his friends. Tackle football, gorilla basketball, etc. I still remember being about 9 when we moved into a new neighborhood and I wanted to play football with the new boys for the first time. They all treated me with kid gloves until my brother told them I could take care of myself, so just play ball. The first time I knocked one of them on their ass we didn't have that discussion again. It remained the same way until we graduated from college (my poor brother had to go to college with 2 of his little sisters). So in that respect, I learned from an early age, and due mostly to my dad, that I could take care of myself and play with the boys while not becoming one of them.

While I am in uniform I do not want to be treated as a "female" officer. I just want to be seen as an officer. Hence why I don't wear my blues unless I have to.

But my father also brought me up to be a lady. If a man holds the door for me, I appreciate it. BAck in the day, If one offered to take me out for dinner, I accepted the offer. I like dressing up in a dress and heels, wearing makeup, and having my hair done, an know that the males around me appreciate seeing a woman looking like a woman, and accepting a compliment as it is given, instead of seeing it as sexual harassment.

Maybe because of all this, that is why I married a man 17 years my senior. He respects me for the job I do, and appreciates me for being his wife, and allowing him to wear the pants in the family, so to speak

. Alot of the guys I dated before him wanted me to be their mommy. Thank you, but no.

04-19-2012, 16:10	#7
afchic Area Commander Join Date: May 2007 Location: IL Posts: 1,644	I for one have never subcribed to the typical definition of "feminism". I grew up with a brother 1 year older than me, therefore if I wanted to play I learned to play with him and his friends. Tackle football, gorilla basketball, etc. I still remember being about 9 when we moved into a new neighborhood and I wanted to play football with the new boys for the first time. They all treated me with kid gloves until my brother told them I could take care of myself, so just play ball. The first time I knocked one of them on their ass we didn't have that discussion again. It remained the same way until we graduated from college (my poor brother had to go to college with 2 of his little sisters). So in that respect, I learned from an early age, and due mostly to my dad, that I could take care of myself and play with the boys while not becoming one of them. While I am in uniform I do not want to be treated as a "female" officer. I just want to be seen as an officer. Hence why I don't wear my blues unless I have to. But my father also brought me up to be a lady. If a man holds the door for me, I appreciate it. BAck in the day, If one offered to take me out for dinner, I accepted the offer. I like dressing up in a dress and heels, wearing makeup, and having my hair done, an know that the males around me appreciate seeing a woman looking like a woman, and accepting a compliment as it is given, instead of seeing it as sexual harassment. Maybe because of all this, that is why I married a man 17 years my senior. He respects me for the job I do, and appreciates me for being his wife, and allowing him to wear the pants in the family, so to speak. Alot of the guys I dated before him wanted me to be their mommy. Thank you, but no.
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