FWIW, the link below is to the Disabled American Vets National Service Office (DAV-NSO) who extend free professional help and follow-up to veterans in dealing with the VA. NSO's also provide support to spouses and dependents. You do
not need to be a member to gain this support. There are many other veterans organizations that also provide outstanding NSO service. (I don't know this for a fact, but bet the SF foundation provides superior NSO help.) I very strongly recommend vets in need of
any kind of help with the VA (regardless of disability) to contact one of the many NSO's. You are not alone, and it's
very important that you know that.
Thanks very much for your service.
http://www.dav.org/veterans/NSOffices.aspx