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The answer to everything is "Yes", till you put the ring on the finger and utter the "I do."
Then you get mostly Yes'es but in a decreasing number till the warranty expires around the first anniversary.
It tends to be a bit downhill and much more of a compromise/the art of the deal after that. Quid pro quo.
IMHO, you would be best served to wait till you graduate from the SFQC before planning any wedding. Then you might give it a few deployments before you commit, just to make sure. There is very little stigma attached to cohabitation these days. I am sure that she and her family have other plans and perspectives.
Some marriages are better than others, and there is a selection and assessment process there as well. I don't think going through the Q Course at the same time will enhance the experience. In fact, it might even help to end it prematurely, and getting unmarried is very expensive, in many ways.
I waited till I was 35 to get married, and I do not regret staying single for that long. I would have been much less likely to still be married had I done it ten years earlier.
You do as you think best, just let us know periodically how it is working out.
TR
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De Oppresso Liber 01/20/2025
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