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Col Moroney weighed in 04-30-08 with this:
You asked, but you are not going to like this. Your hearts might belong to each other but your 4th POCs belong to the Army. You should be assigned to where ever the military needs you, accommodated if possible where you both can contribute best to the military, and one of you needs to make a career change if you find your personal aspirations are interferring with your professional requirements. I think you are going to find talking with this crowd that family has, out of necessity, been relegated to second position by situations way beyond your control because of the commitment required and expected of those that have volunteered for SF. I am sure that this sounds a tad insensitive and hard assed, but unfortunately in those instances where folks have bent over backwards and made exceptions to accommodate other folks where professional requirements and personal expectations just don't mix the bill payer is more often than not another soldier or soldiers that either have to pick up the slack, get an assignment where they were not best utilized or pay a price in their careers or lives that is just not right. While I respect, and thank you both, for your service I am fresh out of sympathy for situations such as these. Did you hear that noise? The chaplain has just left the building. I am sure others will have different opinions but remember you asked.
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