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Originally Posted by Onward
Gentlemen (and ladies...especially ladies!)
My wife's birthday is about 2 months out, and I am at a total loss as to what to get her. My first thought would be a vacation, but I am currently deployed, which puts a stop to that idea. I have always found good advice and knowledge on this site, and would appreciate any input that anyone may have. Need to keep her happy until I go to Selection next year I've been a member here for about a year; generally try to stay under the radar, lurk and learn. I've used the search feature for this topic, but to no avail; if I've missed something, I'm sorry, and would appreciate being pointed in the right direction.
This is our first deployment, I've been in country for about 2 months, and we've been married for about 6.
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Pardon me, but I think you need to keep her happy for the rest of her life. But, I think you were getting ahead of yourself, when you've been Married 22 years I'll bet you see this a little differently.
Next, let me offer this idea about SF "relationships", Use the ship analogy. Wives can be viewed as ports or anchors. Ports are fun (Windjammer Cruises) Ports can be safe ("port in the storm") Ports can be welcoming (Home Ports and Ports of Call) Anchors are more protective in the "need it right now" sort of way. They hold you in a spot so things can get done -- repairs, rest and fun -- you don't always want to have to drive the boat. An anchor holds you in place, keeps you safe, and keeps you attached to something. Anchors fail only under the most intense pressure. You can alway get kicked out of a port or depart on the tide.
In my case, my marriage started as a port of call, quickly changed into a home port /sea anchor and now is an anchor. I'm not tied to the wharf. And I'm definitely not mothballed. yet.
So back to what to get her -- married two years and you are away now and away will be a big part of your future relationship. Hmmmm. Diamonds are not going to do it. You have to give her you. Totally and without reservation. Hand written letters (stumbling, clumsy, "gawd-I-hope-noone-but-my-wife-ever-see-this tend to be the best). Barring that give her kids. Then be a great dad.
On second thought give her diamonds too -- like a watch. Something, she will use and look at often especially when you are away. A reminded of the time you promise when you are home.
Of course I may be wrong, this is my second marriage
