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Originally Posted by Radar Rider
Really? Great Grandpa beat the shit out of Grandpa. Grandpa beat the shit out of Dad. Dad started out following the same pattern, but broke the pattern with his 8 kids; he'd sit us down and talk and talk and talk..... I suspect that if you research the 1800s and early 1900s, you'll find that kid beating was pretty much the standard.
Okay, we are evolving as a society. Since we can't beat the kids, we have to find a better way in which to raise our children.
The days of beating bad kids, whether we are nostalgic or not, are gone. I don't like punks running around, but we have to be real.
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Yes really, or atleast sometimes... Many parents arent taking their responsibility for raising their kids seriously or at all. They are letting society deem how they are raised and to me that is ass wrong as two men raising a child, or two women for that matter.
Personally I think some kids need their asses handed to them. There are those, obviously like yours, who dont need that to get through to them and a stern talking to about their actions will suffice. At the same time there are others who need to be spanked, whipped, and/or beaten (only figuratively) before they figure out what the hell they are doing wrong and that there is serious repercussions to their actions; I was one of those.
When I was younger, preteen years, I got my ass handed to me often. I thank my father daily (God rest his soul) for being stern and strict with me, for without him beating my ass I may have ended up on the wrong side of the fence later in life when it would have been much more difficult to correct the path I was headed on. Had my father tried time-outs, quiet time, or sent me off to "think about" what I had done I would be in a world of hurt just as many of the kids are today. I remember him sitting me down and talking to me about what I had done, why it was wrong, and that there is consequences for wrong doing. I never remember him hitting me out of anger or as a reflex (except for once when he punched me in the mouth for saying GD; never said that word again), but I can honestly tell you that it always hurt...and hurt really bad. After he was finished he told me he loved me and he hugged me.
I am regretful that your parents endured abusive parents. No child should ever have to endure such, however I believe a parent leaving a child to their own devices is doing them just as great a disservice. I don't remember having the problems in high school that many of todays youth are having and it wasn't that long ago. Some of that I attribute to my parents and the choices they made in rearing me and not letting me make decisions I wasn't responsible enough to make. Whereas many of todays kids are left to themselves because parents have (you name it) to do. The remainder I attribute to the degradation of society as a whole in what we allow kids to witness: TV, radio, movies...
I now have a beautiful 6y/o little girl but she is, without a doubt, her father's daughter. I intend on raising her as I see fit and if that includes her getting her ass spanked when she has tested the limits then that will be that. I refuse to allow society to tell me whats good for my family. The responsibility for my family and my daughter rests firmly on my shoulders. She will be raised to respect her elders, act as a young lady, defend herself, study, and believe her word is her bond. If I can instill those few things in her then I will have done my job as a parent, more or less...
As for the couples staying together I think you will find we as a society dont take commitment as seriously as our parents and their parents, and etc... Yes there are those who stayed together for the kids but I believe you will find a greater number stayed together because they made a commitment to another person, "til death do us part." Whereas today it seems to be, "until something better comes along" or "until you piss me off."
Thats all for now...
Crip