Originally Posted by DTH350
Presently, I am a second-year law student seriously considering applying to the 20th SFG upon graduation and taking the bar. The recruiter with whom I spoke yesterday answered many of my questions and was extremely helpful. However, I would like to get some feedback on how you approached the decision to apply with regard to your wives.
Obviously it needs to be a mutual decision. When I discuss the idea with my wife she says that I should do what I want and that she doesn't wish to be the type of woman who holds someone back.
I can't seem to make her understand that it isn't so simple and that I need her input and to know that she will be supportive the whole way. I also don't think she understands what the decision will require of her - I'm not even sure I do for that matter.
This may seem like a strange request, but I was hoping that a Quiet Professional's wife might be willing to speak with her or me (even if only through PM) to help us both get an understanding of what the wife goes through and what is required of her.
This is as much her decision as mine, and I want us both to be fully informed.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.
P.S. - While there seems to be some information within in the site regarding the pressures put on wives by their husbands' SF careers, the focus of this post is more geared towards learning how to make my wife want to play a bigger role in the intitial decision making process. Thanks.
Oh shit, another thread on wives and/or girlfriends and SF.
I think you should use the search button and read some more.
189 threads on wives, one of them probably has your answer.
Odds are very long against you making it to SF anyway.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." - President Theodore Roosevelt, 1910
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