Echos that is a good perspective IMO it is one of respect and awarness of history.
When I see a monument I try to understand it in its context. I'll bet most are not aware that even though both sides of the combatants were American they were actually treated very differently after the hostilities ended.
"Confederate soldiers received no federal veterans benefits until 1958, when Congress pardoned Confederate servicemembers and extended benefits to the single remaining survivor."
From the source, page 4:
https://www.va.gov/opa/publications/...y_in_brief.pdf
Many if not all were created by the Daughters of the Confederacy to honor their Fathers, sons, and neighbors...