Naaman
09-08-2014, 07:25
One thing my time in the military taught me was how to harness mental fortitude in order to overcome physical limitations. The idea of "just do it" or "make it happen," is a daily reality. No excuses.
Since I have been through this, I have learned to approach problems with a victor's mindset: the task may currently be beyond my capability, but nothing says it has to stay that way.
The problem I run into, though, is trying to impart this mentality to my son. He seems to shun a challenge of any kind. Even challenges that require no physical effort on his part (like solving a simple riddle). It seems that, if he cannot comprehend an immediate pay-off, it's not worth it to him. He's a lot smarter than anyone ever gives him credit for (and he has learned to milk this, taking the path of least resistance, playing on others' perceptions of his apparent ineptitude). I just can't seem to help him understand that there is so much more to life than personal gratification.
Any other dads out there been through this? Any success stories of how you/your kids overcame it?
Since I have been through this, I have learned to approach problems with a victor's mindset: the task may currently be beyond my capability, but nothing says it has to stay that way.
The problem I run into, though, is trying to impart this mentality to my son. He seems to shun a challenge of any kind. Even challenges that require no physical effort on his part (like solving a simple riddle). It seems that, if he cannot comprehend an immediate pay-off, it's not worth it to him. He's a lot smarter than anyone ever gives him credit for (and he has learned to milk this, taking the path of least resistance, playing on others' perceptions of his apparent ineptitude). I just can't seem to help him understand that there is so much more to life than personal gratification.
Any other dads out there been through this? Any success stories of how you/your kids overcame it?