View Full Version : O Sarah, I wait for you there! Come to me, and lead thither my children.

07-29-2011, 02:33
Below is the letter of Major Sullivan Ballou (Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2011/07/28/major-sullivan-ballous-letter-to-wife-sarah/#ixzz1TTFQ4A3M)of the Union Army's Second Regiment, Rhode Island Volunteers, to his wife Sarah days before he was killed in the Battle of Bull Run. Ballou wrote the letter on July 14, 1861 while awaiting orders that would take him down to Manassas, Virginia where he was killed on July 28. Ballou, 32, was a lawyer and father of two small boys, Edgar and Willie, who volunteered to fight for the Union Army.

My very dear Sarah:

The indications are very strong that we shall move in a few days -- perhaps tomorrow. Lest I should not be able to write you again, I feel impelled to write lines that may fall under your eye when I shall be no more.

Our movement may be one of a few days duration and full of pleasure -- and it may be one of severe conflict and death to me. Not my will, but thine O God, be done.

If it is necessary that I should fall on the battlefield for my country, I am ready. I have no misgivings about, or lack of confidence in, the cause in which I am engaged, and my courage does not halt or falter.

I know how strongly American Civilization now leans upon the triumph of the Government, and how great a debt we owe to those who went before us through the blood and suffering of the Revolution. And I am willing -- perfectly willing -- to lay down all my joys in this life, to help maintain this Government, and to pay that debt.

But, my dear wife, when I know that with my own joys I lay down nearly all of yours, and replace them in this life with cares and sorrows -- when, after having eaten for long years the bitter fruit of orphanage myself, I must offer it as their only sustenance to my dear little children -- is it weak or dishonorable, while the banner of my purpose floats calmly and proudly in the breeze, that my unbounded love for you, my darling wife and children, should struggle in fierce, though useless, contest with my love of country?

I cannot describe to you my feelings on this calm summer night, when two thousand men are sleeping around me, many of them enjoying the last, perhaps, before that of death -- and I, suspicious that Death is creeping behind me with his fatal dart, am communing with God, my country, and thee.

I have sought most closely and diligently, and often in my breast, for a wrong motive in thus hazarding the happiness of those I loved and I could not find one. A pure love of my country and of the principles I have often advocated before the people and "the name of honor that I love more than I fear death" have called upon me, and I have obeyed.

Sarah, my love for you is deathless, it seems to bind me to you with mighty cables that nothing but Omnipotence could break; and yet my love of Country comes over me like a strong wind and bears me irresistibly on with all these chains to the battlefield.

The memories of the blissful moments I have spent with you come creeping over me, and I feel most gratified to God and to you that I have enjoyed them so long. And hard it is for me to give them up and burn to ashes the hopes of future years, when God willing, we might still have lived and loved together, and seen our sons grow up to honorable manhood around us.

I have, I know, but few and small claims upon Divine Providence, but something whispers to me -- perhaps it is the wafted prayer of my little Edgar -- that I shall return to my loved ones unharmed. If I do not, my dear Sarah, never forget how much I love you, and when my last breath escapes me on the battlefield, it will whisper your name.

Forgive my many faults, and the many pains I have caused you. How thoughtless and foolish I have oftentimes been!

How gladly would I wash out with my tears every little spot upon your happiness, and struggle with all the misfortune of this world, to shield you and my children from harm. But I cannot. I must watch you from the spirit land and hover near you, while you buffet the storms with your precious little freight, and wait with sad patience till we meet to part no more.

But, O Sarah! If the dead can come back to this earth and flit unseen around those they loved, I shall always be near you; in the garish day and in the darkest night -- amidst your happiest scenes and gloomiest hours -- always, always; and if there be a soft breeze upon your cheek, it shall be my breath; or the cool air fans your throbbing temple, it shall be my spirit passing by.

Sarah, do not mourn me dead; think I am gone and wait for thee, for we shall meet again.

As for my little boys, they will grow as I have done, and never know a father's love and care. Little Willie is too young to remember me long, and my blue-eyed Edgar will keep my frolics with him among the dimmest memories of his childhood.

Sarah, I have unlimited confidence in your maternal care and your development of their characters.

Tell my two mothers his and hers I call God's blessing upon them.

O Sarah, I wait for you there! Come to me, and lead thither my children.


Many of us have written "THAT" letter. Not this letter of course but, many of the same timeless sentiments were frequently the goal in mind although not as well articulated. Mine was penned on the night of 21 February 1991 as my ODA stood poised for an SR mission into Iraq, and according to Saddam Hussein, the Mother of All Battles. Many of us sat alone, deep in our thoughts, and our letters home. I thought of my beautiful wife and daughter, and what the next days, weeks, or months would bring for me and my family. Of course, the following days resulted in much less drama than many of the worst case scenarios called for. I subsequently never wrote another letter like it but, I was then and other times afterwards quite accepting of my fate should the worst case scenario be realized, as soldiers and their families are.

Today, I am grateful to have a grandson due next month; my beautiful wife by my side still; all the hopes, dreams and desires of a middle aged man; and the full appreciation for those like Major Sullivan Ballou, with all those before and since, and many who we've known who have laid down all their joys, while the families laid down many, if not nearly all their joys in life, for all of us.

07-29-2011, 07:07
A well written letter by Major Ballou in 1861 (as was the manner of speaking and writing back then).

Thank you for your commentary..... it is well articulated!

07-29-2011, 17:22
That was beautiful. Obviously I don't know what it is like to write that type of letter, nor to receive it, but I know if I was on the receiving end I'd treasure it forever.

Thanks for posting this.

07-29-2011, 21:41

Thank You for your service.

IIRC Major Ballou's letter was featured in Ken Burn's spectacular The Civil War Documentary. It was beautiful then, as it is now. This letter and Shelby Foote's account of General Nathan Bedford Forrest's astonishing physical strength I will never forget.:)